Chaos & Clarity

Dear Gnat,

When my daughter was a little girl, I often wondered about the person who would one day capture her heart.  I should have known she’d find someone like you.  She always chose her friends wisely, gravitating toward people who, even at a young age, knew what values were and tried their best to live accordingly.

My realization came after your first date. I heard how you protected my daughter, steadfast in the face of her bravado, and I knew that she had met her match. She is headstrong to be sure, and you are not pushy, but your strength runs deep, ready to surface as needed. 

I can see that you appreciate the differences between the two of you as opportunities for personal growth, not as something to contend with or compete against. This willingness to evolve together will serve you well.

Our girl’s enormous enthusiasm for life can overwhelm a mortal, but you remain undaunted. Your heart, having been cracked open, recognizes that wonderful things await the person who leans into love.

When a tornado nearly ruined your wedding venue in the days preceding your nuptials, you declared your intention to say your vows no matter what, even if it meant taking all the guests to a local park. With trademark steadiness, you comforted your bride in her disappointment, knowing what not to say while holding space for her emotion. 

I should have known the heartfelt letter you delivered on the eve of your wedding would pay tribute to the role her father and I played in shaping our daughter. Your inclusion of us in the vision you hold for your growing family is a parent’s dream. 

You’re the kind of guy people talk about in all the best ways. “He’s got a good head on his shoulders,”  they say, and nod with contented approval. You don’t need to live up to anyone’s good opinion of you, but I know you try. Because you are earnest and humble enough to know that character requires continuous introspection.

I love you, Gnat, for who you are, and for who you and my daughter will become together. Welcome to the family!

Love,

Deb